To some, the term “trophy wife” connotes an enviable achievement, while to others it’s an idiomatic synonym for “idiot.” The contradictory connotations that riddle the following definition probably please both sides:

Trophy wife: The (rarely first) wife of an affluent (often older) man who is (often younger and) exceptionally (more) attractive (than he is). Prevailing synonyms include: gold digger, socialite, shopaholic, secret envy of countless women, and object of feminist scorn.

However interpreted, the customary concept of marriage based strictly on romantic love is both young and narrow. Historically, people have gotten married for a wide variety of reasons — social, economical, political, professional — so the trophy wife has plenty of precedence.

Evaluate the pros and cons

The decision to pursue a trophy wife should involve a good degree of deliberation weighed across a number of different scales.

Core traits
Beyond personal preferences, you should consider certain traits indispensable:

Education: She should be college-educated and hold a degree. Unless she’s somehow self-made, avoid dropouts — particularly from high school.

Charm: As your wife, ally and other half, she’ll accompany you to any number of events; her social skills ought to be anywhere from above-average to electric.

Looks: By definition, this is a given.

Ambition: You’re ambitious; how much respect do you have for people who aren’t? You may not want her taking over your business, but neither do you want her taking the concept of “day bed” seriously. Lower this standard for your mistress, not your wife.

She may be hot, but she also comes with her own set of flaws…

The pros of a trophy wife include:

Convenience: Your busy career leaves you with little energy for dating and even less energy for a high-maintenance woman, so a relationship that features diminished investments is probably appealing.

Presentation: Her appearance, social demeanor and intelligence reflect well on you — both personally and professionally.

Representation: She can stand in as your other half at parties and fundraisers.

Network: She instantly expands your network with the potential to create new business opportunities.

Upkeep: She can maintain your household and domestic staff.

An air-tight prenup: You’d get one anyway, but this relationship lends itself to reducing some of the awkwardness a prenup presents, as well as preventing too many emotions from getting in the way.

She has almost as many cons:

Uncertainty: Vaguely defined expectations may prove too odd or uncomfortable to confront, and may lead to problems.

Forced intimacy: You may have doubts about her intentions when the only names she calls out during sex are those of dead presidents.

Capital depletion: Outrageous spending binges are par for the course, so when you blow up over the monthly statements, expect a singular defense: trophy wife entitlement.

Whispers: “She’s only with him for his money;” be ready to hear this from various corners and, to some extent, be ready to believe and accept it.

Of dubious devotion: You will inevitably age, so what happens if or when you begin to babble and wet yourself? A common stumbling block with such a marriage seems to be the lack of forward-thinking: Will she take care of you when you get older and will you do the same?

Search for her

A dearth of specific information about finding a trophy wife means the best advice is to work in the other direction — don’t look where you can find them, but where they’re looking to find you. Potential trophy wives learn to go where you’ll be, so without appearing desperate, make yourself visible and available at these locales:

• expensive restaurants
• fitness facilities
• charity events and fundraisers
• happy hour: in financial district bars, as well as those of five-star hotels
• exclusive country clubs
• art galleries, grand openings
• gatherings for high-end hobbies, such as boating events

More things to consider before popping the question…

Additionally, credible internet matchmakers such as Kelleher & Associates cater to the man of means, though the standard caveats of online dating remain in place. On the internet everyone is charming, beautiful and unblemished — a stark deviation from reality.

Establish expectations

Your expectations

Three fundamental issues lie at the heart of marriage: money, sex and children. Ask yourself what you expect from such a union, what roles you expect her to fulfill, and be ready to negotiate. Imagine the time and energy you intend to devote to sealing the prenup; it’s common sense to apply equal planning to the marriage itself.

Her expectations

The aspiring trophy wife can choose among a cluster of how-to books and even seminars, but nearly all of them focus their eyes on a principal prize: your money.

Yet, while many women fantasize about the lifestyle, those same fantasies have a tendency to backfire when they come true. According to Carol Setters, author of The Trophy Wife Trap, when those fantasies collide with reality they morph into coping mechanisms that battle to repudiate feelings of an increasingly empty life. Shopping sprees on designer clothes, round upon round of plastic surgery, incessant property renovations, and a taste for the bottle with breakfast are some of the patterns she points out as common escapist behaviors among trophy wives.

winning the prize

The point here, gentlemen, is to prevent as best you can these habits from developing by giving this entire notion the thought it deserves before taking the plunge. Power and money combine to make one of the most alluring aphrodisiacs known to mankind, but you have to be careful with the kind of women they attract.

Resources:

www.answers.com
http://dictionary.laborlawtalk.com
www.thefreedictionary.com
www.forbes.com
http://agreatmatch.reachlocal.net
www.millionairematch.com
http://millionairesclub123.com
www.nypress.com
www.morethanmoney.org
www.carolsetters.com
www.askmen.com

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